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 more likely to stem from the loss of a life-long relationship. Family may be a great solution to help with managing the home. Friends can provide social support when you are ready. At some point building new relationships will be beneficial. You may want to find new ways to take on a larger role in the lives of your adult children or grand children.
Address sibling issues to reduce im- pact on aging adult. Sadly resentment can creep in when siblings disagree about care. It does not matter if the frustrations result from disagreements about care, unbalanced care responsibilities, conflicts with personal needs, or feeling left out of care decisions because a family member lives so far away, sibling rivalry erupts and can get emotionally-charged. Old family issues are brought back to life and the redirection can blur the focus of care... the aging adult. Encourage siblings to address their interpersonal relationships and tensions so they can focus on supporting your needs with full intent. You may need to lead them.
Address caregiving responsibilities thoughtfully. It’s important to first determine what the needs are before you automatically start assuming one family member or another will do them. Common tendencies and frustrations have been seen from...
• One sibling lives close by so he will start helping with small things. A year later he
is spending 40+ hours a week there and anger is building because the other siblings are not doing their ‘fair share.’
• One sibling should be the primary caregiver because they don’t work and can get paid for caregiving. This soon turns to resent- ment when it appears that Mom or Dad are running out of money.
• One sibling needs a place to stay. In the short term it seems like a good idea because it will help both of them. In the long term, talking starts because they are taking advantage.
• Or it might be as simple as the son does the physical work and handles the finances and the daughter provides the emotional support. The reality is that neither might have those strengths and the end result is a broken down house with a spent bank account.
While these initial assumptions sound great on the surface, they can all have long-term consequences. They are not focused on care needs or the skills of the adult children or address the distribution of caregiving support equitably. Parents, you have the ability to help diminish sibling rivalry behaviors from the
getting in the way of helping to ensure the best quality of life possible.
The solution for finding the best caregiving options takes a greater investment of time but yields better results; it’s time for a family meeting.
Schedule a family meeting to seek an agreement regarding who will do what, if anyone is paid and how that will work, will someone move in, and when is professional assistance the next step. If caregiving is already out of balance then rebalancing needs to be on the agenda. And finally, if siblings simply cannot agree, or you cannot keep from picking sides, then a neutral person leading this meeting might be required.
When caregiving begins, it is important to keep all siblings up to date. You can pre-empt frustrations by respectfully making sure you continue to share the same information with all involved in caregiving. Whether it’s finances, doctor appointment results, or household tasks... communicate, communicate, communicate.
Even though it might seem like it... it’s never too late to talk. Starting today could make the road ahead a lot smoother.
Delivering Excellence. Every Life. Every Moment. Every Day
       Your needs are different than the next person
Mission Point Health Campus of Jackson, we know that senior living should never be
s. This means that your lifestyle should be, too.
“ which is why our living options are each unique. In our Assisted Living
neighborhood, our team will provide you with the perfect amount of assistance, so you can
focus on pursuits that bring you joy. And if you find yourself or someone you love in need of
more advanced clinical care, we offer Skilled Nursing, Long
     Term Care, Rehabilitation and services on our campus grounds. By offering a wide range of senior living
   Memory Care
options, we ensure that you always feel supported, no matter where you are on life
s journey.
    We offer:
• Short-Term Rehabilitation
• Skilled Nursing
• Long-Term Care
• Hospice Care
• Respite Stays
 703 Robinson Rd. • Jackson, MI 49203 • •

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